or me, a ‘’family’’ means a place where two people have stepped in to lead their lives as partners whether there is  love in between them or not.  Here, the individuals have to behave as if they are a whole…
However, most of the time life in a marriage goes on as a chaos, nightmare. The problem arises because the couples are not friends with each other.
Only a few people and families are interested with ‘’not being uniform, not being standars models’’, in other words with the contemporary concepts.
For some, diving deep into the depths of the universe of   imaginations, into the universality is like a peerless painting, but for some it is only a half step, false reasoning…

A life style which is considerably boring, the interacting lives without any creativity and the actions that have no depth, in which the sentimentality takes the first place  and which considers love as a means of  finding relief ….
Thoughts that are deprived of the love leading to the essence, in which there is no boldness, curiosity and creativity….
The relations in which the individualistic dialogues, and support are more important than everything….
I am talking about the family…

The common problem of its members is to have been caught in the same social web. The norms and the traditions, the conditionings …
Sharing the dominant feelings and ideas which are far from understanding what is good and what is bad ……
All of them have  fixed their minds  to this meaningless current…

When the head of the family is questioned about his principles, he answers ‘’I am a father and my family is my everything.
I possess them. They cannot do anything beyond what I say. 
My statements are like the law. If I say ‘this should be like this’, then all the flowing waters should stop (i.e. it has to be done).
My reputation and honour is very important for me.
I have spent lots and lots of effort to reach these days and the present social standing’’…….
Especially, it is very important for the high tempered father to be portrayed as a hero by the other members of the family. As a matter of fact,  this is the wish of the father and it is one of the constant factors in the life of  the society.
Unfortunately!!!!, in the society it is no longer  valid to defend such traditional ideas and opinions. In spite of the fact that the hierarchy within the family life is protected as an indispensable status, everybody shares the opinion that nothing can be done with the dictatorial behaviour of the man.

The mother is not much more different than the father.
She has got hold of the rumors that say ‘’the woman cannot go to heaven unless she gets the approval of her husband’’ and she believes in the statement ‘’the female bird makes up the nest’’
Her actions such as going out without putting her stockings on,  riding a bicycle, shaking hands with men whom she does not know are all controlled by the husband/father of the family. He has the right to control.
The woman deals with the education of  the children. She thinks about their future.
Living only for her chidren is her main principle and duty. She cannot ever  think that she is existing on this world for another purpose.
She thinks ‘’The more children I have, the more powerful I’ll become and the more lives I’ll have’’!..
The idea that the child is the promotion of life has been fixed in her brain.
She protects all the people close to her and never gives up to threaten them with beating.
She burns with the feeling of  being loyal,  protecting her loyalty.
With all of her actions she repeats the same old refrain ‘’I am a mother, I am a mother’’…
What I have been telling is a woman whose only success has been producing child after child and nothing else. 

The child makes the others to look after himself all the time. It is one of the basic nutrients of  our imaginary world of feelings.
Now, here is a son in front of you creating a character type who has brought to the forefront the sentimentality while talking to his father on the phone and the father  who is  trying to stop his tears.
He is trying to say  ‘’I  am the son of  my father!’’…
To say it short, he is following his father’s path.

Moreover, a daughter who runs around like a ball of fire and accepts  to cry at the simplest event as her duty…
And her efforts to tell about her  problems with a voice to make you hear …
In general, she complains about  her elder brother who does not want to share his feelings, his love and who wants to be dominant all the time.  
She has lots of complaints.
Among the standard phrases that she uses most is ‘’But mother!’’…

My words are the most penetrating statements for those  cartoon characters.
However, please believe me, this is what the truth is.

As a matter of fact, the human being had never got seperated from Allah that is impossible to divide, to break into pieces and smaller segments. Therefore, he should try to evaluate this universe in which he has found the chance to know himself.

Now, you may say ‘’what is the relation between this and our subject’’…

Excuse me, I ‘ve only wanted to tell you about the nucleus family.

Long live the nucleus family!…

Istanbul- September 21^th 2000 
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