not easy for us to find a person who did not make any mistakes
during his lifetime. There are of course exceptions, but in
general, we have to live with this negative aspect. For this
reason, we have to listen to the warnings and our goal should
be to have a controlled, stable and a respectful life in order
to avoid a feeling of emptiness bringing along another one.
of the prerequisites of such a life style is to keep away from
such relations which have no use for the individual.
However, it is unfortunate that a majority of
the population is
leading a life at the edge of such a poverty.
Believe it or
not, a connection established with an idle person who
wanders around thinking only about his gains from the daily
life, who doesn’t have the simplest positive segment in his
life and who does not search for any kind of legitimacy will be
a hinderance, a set back for you.
such people only for the sake of being good to them and
letting some ideas to flourish will take away lots of things
from you without even making you aware of it and your manners
will surprisingly become like that of the subject individual.
everything can be fine if this situation/state of mind can be
controlled and if you can take the necessary precautions no
matter what they cost.
Mawlana has a very
nice statement:- ‘’If you walk around with someone who sells
roses, then you will smell like a rose, but if you go around
with someone who sells coal, then you’ll smell like coal.’’
Here, the message
is open and clear. It is impossible to interpret this
statement in some other way.
person who goes through problems in his personal life cannot
become aware of this during the first stages, because he has
got used to such behaviour. However, when the relations come to
an end he can feel that he has been influenced in the negative
Mawlana, in his
Masnawi warns the individual strongly and he says :-
‘’Stay away from the idiot, because the
conversation with the idiot has led to shedding of much
blood. The air steals the water little by little (slowly) and
in the same way the idiot steals from you. That idiot steals
the warmth and gives the coldness like a person who puts a stone
In short, the
idiot person opens the door for every kind of mistake.
So, the matter is
of vital importance.
should be able to make a self criticism for such situations
whenever he finds the chance and he should not overlook the
reflections that may come out from that feeling of emptiness
which may occur every instant. At least such an analysis can
lead the person to take good precautions for the dangers that
may occur every instant.
Also, we should
take seriously and keep in mind the statement ‘’The road
for the Hell has been paved with the stones of good will’’
; because in the end the good ones may also be classified among
the class of the bad ones too.
In order not to
turn the life into misery and helplessness the most logical
thing to do would be to keep away from such kind of people.